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I always fall into these ruts where I don’t treat myself very well. Whether that’s eating poorly or being a disorganized mess, I have those moments where I really just have to yell at myself to pull it together. It’s almost always in the middle of a new Netflix binge.
I’ve written two very popular posts about getting your life together here and here. But, honestly, my professional life can be in tip top shape and my personal well being can be in turmoil. Mostly because I’ll sacrifice food and sleep to meet deadlines and finish assignments. It’s those bad undergrad habits that won’t die.
Figure out what’s holding you back.
10 times out of 10 it’s poor time management or spreading myself way too thin. Which, as you can probably imagine, is very easy to do when you have two different side hustles and a new graduate school program? Each of them is a full-time endeavor and each is very important to me. But, this can also lead to frequent over scheduling and feeling like I always need to be ‘on’ all the time. I’ve honestly just been telling myself that I’m not that big of a deal that people will be hurting if I exit the internet for 24 -48 hours.
If it’s toxic, get rid of it.
In the process of writing this post, I realized that I spend way too much money when I order food through apps like Seamless or Doordash. It is really easy to rely on these when I don’t have my weekend time for Trader Joe’s. So, I kid you not. I just deleted all three of my favorite food ordering apps completely off my phone. If I really need to use it, I can hop on my laptop and order through the desktop versions. I have no doubts that this will severely lessen the number of times I order food during the week. *sips glass of wine*
You gotta feel like a star to be a star.
My letterboard in my room says, “I’m nicer when I like my outfit.” And, I truly believe that if you are feeling good, that confidence we all want just naturally follows. Imagine how great I felt to spend 15 minutes posing in front of the Washington Square Park arch for these blog photos. When I’m feeling less than stellar, I love taking a hot shower or enjoying a crisp glass of wine. Also, a really good workout will boost those endorphins like there’s no tomorrow.
I will preach that self lovin’ stuff for the rest of time because it’s so important! I will jokingly say that things are in the name of self-love, but moderation is key. Insomnia cookies are amazing, but you should probably only splurge on one of those bad boys once every 3-4 weeks, tbh. I now treat myself with excursions to parts of NYC that I love but I know will take up a good chunk of time like the Upper West Side or Tribeca!
Leather Jacket | Romper | Boots (similar)
Take your time.
I really wanted to beat the star pun into the ground and I think I achieved that. In all seriousness, I feel like I should address that not everything is a HIGH here in NYC. There are literally days where I just want to pack up and go hide in my bed because things just don’t go my way. But, I also think if you give yourself time to recharge and stay on top of what you need to get done, life is so much easier.
I am my best self when my calendar is organized, but not necessarily full. I’ve stopped feeling the pressure to fill all my days with cool plans simply because I live in a cool place. I have five whole years to explore every corner of this city and I don’t need to accomplish it in five weeks.
Taking my time and gaining some star power every day.
keep on keepin’ on,
